One thing that inhibits grace and its reach to set captives free is the “us vs. them” mentality that many churchgoers unconsciously project. If we think of addictive people as “those people” with the serious problems, unlike us who don’t “desperately” need God’s help, we sound a lot like those Bible Pharisees who thanked God that they were not like “those tax collectors.”

The founders of the Twelve-Step program rightly assessed that the core human sickness is addiction to self. We all tend to play God and try to get life, people, and even God to do our will. That’s why putting God at the center–doing his will only, moment by moment–is the key not only to successful recovery, but also to experiencing an abundant life.

So how do people become all God intended? How do pastors help greedy people become generous, divorcing people reconcile, sexually entangled people honor God, and addicted people find freedom? Do we need more Bible study, prayer, more frequent church attendance, more obedience, or community? All good things, yes, but Jesus said to Martha, who was busy doing lots of good things, “Only one thing is necessary. “

What is that “one thing”? Jesus tells us Mary was doing it–she was listening. The way we love God is by listening and responding moment by moment in constant connection to him. That’s why he said on his last day on earth, “I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.” Stay connected, and fruit happens!

What are some practical applications for the church? Well, pastors can make a difference in the lives of their members by challenging them to truly abide moment-by-moment in Christ. It is a rigorous practice, and very unnatural to our sin nature, yes, but it’s how people change.

One of those challenges is the “60-60 experiment.” Members set a watch, cellphone or any other device with an alarm to beep every 60 minutes for 60 days to remind them to stay connected to God. Add to that lots of sticky notes & reminders around your home, car & office as additional reminders. This interrupts our habit of ignoring God most of our day. And this is not something for addicts only. I highly encourage anyone to do it. The results for those who go all out is usually astounding–to the point where men will stop looking lustfully at women and internet porn. Try it!

The only thing we must do is stay connected. But we don’t do this naturally, so creating the right environment in which we can best stay connected to God’s Spirit is critical. I’d love to help you. Contact me if you’re seriously considering a change.

Blessings,

Marcel

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